Men need to get better at gossip

Men need to get better at gossipMen need to get better at gossipMen shoot the sh-t or talk sh-t or bullsht. Women gossip. This is a commonly accepted notion of gendered behavior that may actually hurt men mora than women. Why?Gossipingis an effective form of unfettered communication used to exchange information, assert dominance, andbuild trustin relationships. Gossip can be and often is negative, but research shows that men are mora likely to lose friends and influence people (the wrong way)when attempting to make risque jokes. And gossip has real upside. Theres a reason men who decline to gossip - for moral reasons or reasons related to their conception of masculinity - in social and professional settings tend to be less informed.Gossip has gotten a lot of bad publicity. But the definition is merely casual or unmonitored conversation of others, says psychotherapist Janet Zinn, adding that it doesnt have to refer to throwing people under the bus and offering some good news. Men go ssip a lot more than perceived. They tend to gossip in ways that indicate that they can connect with others.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moreStill, there are some psychological reasons men may be less eager to engage in gossip than women. Men tend to be more predisposed to physical hierarchies both biologically and socially, whereas women seek status in more social and relational ways. From a young age,boys tend to roughhouse moreand improve their standing through athletic performance and physical prowess, whereas girls share secrets, spread rumors, and generally speak their way to power. Still, the bulk of data on this sort of gendered performance comes from child development research. Few studies have examined how gossip actually plays out among grown men and women.A recentstudyaddressed this gap in the literature by looking at how 467 people gossiped. Instead of relying on pa rticipants to self-report their gossiping habits, they wore portable recorders that randomly recorded about 10 percent of what they said per day. When researchers analyzed the audio, there were over 4,000 instances of gossip categorized as either positive, negative, or neutral. They found that men engaged in just as much negative tear-down gossip as women, but women engaged in more neutral gossip related to sharing information.Zinn and clinical psychologist Tricia Wolanin, who were not involved in the study, suspect that men may engage in more negative tear-down gossip as a shortcut to achieve status as well. If the goal of gossip is simply status, then tearing down others to build themselves up may work in the short term. In the long term, however, it will almost inevitably create problems and earn those prone to this behavior a bad reputation. Better to balance the mean stuff with pure information sharing.Men have this inclination to gossip, sometimes as a means to connect with ot her people, Wolanin says. When guys talk trash and share secrets, it builds trust, closeness, and can just be a lot of fun. Still, there are healthy ways to pursue healthy social behaviors.If the goal is strengthening connections - and it should be - men should turn up their neutral gossip game. One way to do this is to gossip about strangers. For instance, discussing a professional athletes signing bonus is a solid form of gossip. (Theres a reason that sports guys often seem more comfortable hanging out.) Another way is to gossip about information thats helpful or beneficial to another party, such as in the workplace when someone is being mistreated. Gossiping about kids and other parents can also be an important outlet for any mom and dad to stay sane.The bottom line is if men are going to dish it out, its best to do it in a benign enough way that they shouldnt worry about being gossiped about in turn. Their partners, after all, are probably talking about them behind their backs .Gossip can turn detrimental if we are opting to partake in defaming another, hurting their reputation and those around them, Wolanin says. It can be detrimental if we opt to gossip more about others than taking action in our own lives.This article originally appeared on Fatherly.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

How to Make Your Next Job Change a Success

How to Make Your Next Job Change a SuccessHow to Make Your Next Job Change a SuccessMost of us likely feel grateful that changing jobs is a temporary occupation. Once you land a new position, you can turn off email alerts about jobs in your field and stop writing cover letters. But, even if youre happily employed at a stable company, or just landed a new position, theres still plenty you can do to make your next job search easier. Making Your Next Job Change a Success From writing down accomplishments (to make resume updates easier later on) to broadening your network, theres plenty you can do while in your current position to make your next job search easier. Here are seven strategies to try. 1. Track Your Accomplishments Get in the habit of leiding down your accomplishments and any additional responsibilities that get added to your regular to-do list. One thing that can make updating a resume challenging is that its hard to remember to remember the day-to-day details, like that two summers ago, you made a vital contribution that helped the sales team land a big contract. Make it easier on your future self Using a notebook or the notes section on your phone, keep a running list as these events occur. Not only will you be grateful for it a year-end review (or if you want to ask for a promotion), but itll come in handy if you leave the company abruptly and dont have access to your work email. 2. Learn New Skills Is there an opportunity to learn a new program or system? Get trained on how to be a good manager? Take advantage of these moments as well as projects that will help develop and broaden either your soft or hard skills. This will be helpful fodder for your resume and improve your overall hireability when you apply for a new role. To hiring managers, a candidate who shows initiative in learning new things - and one who does not require a lot of training - is quite appealing. 3. Broaden Your Network Think of your office as a networking goldmine. Working with the same people gives you an opportunity to show who you are as a worker (and to make connections while talking about TV shows by the coffee pot). Take advantage of these opportunities to connect, and look for ways to interact with people outside of your department, too. Basically, you want to show your face - not just in your cubicle, but around the office and during social gatherings. This might mean spending at least some of your lunch hours in communal areas, instead of eating at your desk or running errands. 4. Connect on Social As you build relationships, connect with people on LinkedIn. You can do this early on - no need to wait until you kick off a job search to connect with co-workers. With these connections in place, you can easily keep intouch if you - or others- leave for a different company. 5. Build a Good Relationship with Your Manager If theres one person you want to get along with, its your direct supervisor. Do everything you can to be in alignment and have a strong, positive, productive relationship. A good manager will help you achieve your goals, from recommending you for interesting projects (which will look good on your resume later) to advocating for your promotion. 6. Do Your Job Well Sounds like a no-brainer, right? Taking your current role seriously, doing your work enthusiastically, and thoroughly, will all improve your chances of being visible in your company (more on that below). Plus, if you are engaged with your work, and do it passionately, youll have lots of meaningful anecdotes to share during subsequent job interviews. You wont be searching for examples of successful projects and relationships with team members. 7. Make Sure People Know When You Get Things Done OK, this is a delicate line. Nobody likes a braggart, after all. So you shouldnt boast about your accomplishments. But you also shouldnt be so modest that no one realizes that you did something meaningful or instrumental. One way to get your accomplishments ack nowledged Let your manager do the heavy lifting for you. Share details with your manager (in a factual, not boastful way) and allow them to send emails praising you, or note your contributions in meetings and conversations with other higher-ups. The reason you want people to be well aware of what youre getting done at work is so that youll be remembered by colleagues and seen in a positive light. This will make them feel comfortable serving as a reference and also referring you for positions.

Special Operations Command Fitness Tests

Special Operations Command Fitness TestsSpecial Operations Command Fitness TestsTraining hard to excel in fitness tests to is a must to become a special operator within the ranks of the Special Operations Command (SOCOM). Its not atypical for selection programs to require over a year of continuous training. Additionally, each branchof service and their special operations ground units have differing criteria. Army To enter Special Forces Assessment and Selection (SFAS), candidates must pass athree-week test begin the Special Forces Qualification Course (Q Course) 50-meterswim with full gear including bootsPushups, twominutesSitups, twominutesPull-ups maxTwo-mile andrang After this test, you will immediately begin other very physical events such as ruck marches, obstacle courses, a large variety of calisthenics, log PT, and running. This will continue for three weeks during SFAS and involve other tactical skills such as land navigation, problem-solving, patrolling, and teamwork. 75 thArmy Rangers Regiment - To become an Army Ranger at a Ranger Battalion or the 75th Ranger Regiment, you must qualify to attend Ranger Assessment and Selection Program (RASP). This is an eight-week course that prepares soldiers to become operating members of the 75th Ranger Regiment. Some of the physical requirements and tests you will be required to take within your first few days of Ranger Assessment are the following Army Physical Fitness Test (PFT) with a five-mile timed runCombat water survival testDarby Mile Run eventFive-mile runsTerrain runs and obstacle courses12-mile foot marchNight and day land-navigation tests Recommendations Get used to rucking and load-bearing exercises. The rucking, decreased calories per day, and land navigation are a few of the challenges many students endure. Navy Navy Sea, Air, and Land Teams (SEALs) candidates attend Basic Underwater Demolition/SEAL Training (BUD/S)in Coronado CA. To get accepted into BUD/S, the Navy Physical Screening Test (PST) must be mastered. Officers and enlisted students attend the same coursehowever, the officers must also attend a pre-BUD/S selection program called SEAL Officer Assessment and Selection (SOAS). Navy SEALs, Special Warfare Combatant-craft Crewmen (SWCC), Explosive Ordnance Disposal (EODs) and divers all must master the following fitness test to get to the training 500-yard swim - using the combat sidestroke or breaststrokePush-ups, twominutesSit-ups, twominutesPull-ups, max reps1.5-mile timed run Air Force Air Force Combat Rescue/Pararescue (PJ) units take the Physical Abilities and Stamina Test (PAST), which includes 2 x 25-meter underwater swim(Pass/Fail)500-meter surface swim- Any stroke but backstroke1.5-mile runPull-ups,max repsPush-ups, twominutesSit-ups, twominutes Initial Training PhaseOnce in the PJ and Combat Control Team (CC)TCandidate Course, you will be challenged physically for ten weeks atLackland AFB. The first phase is known as Team Training and is eight w eeks long. It consists of extensive physical training with swimming, running, weight training, calisthenics and obstacle courses. Educational training such as medical and diving terminology, CPR, weapons qualifications and dive physics are also part of the Candidate Course. After this course, the PJ and the CCT pipeline splits as one will attend the combat medic course, and the other will attend the air traffic controller course. Officer Selection Course and StandardsAir Force Special Tactics and Combat Rescue Officers within the Air Force Special Operations Command have to pass a similar PAST. However, it is longer and considered tougher and more competitive as the slots to become a Special Tactic Officer (STO) or Combat Rescue Officer (CRO) are highly competitive and few in number. Here is the advanced PAST the officers have to take 2 x 25-meter underwater swim(Pass/Fail)1500 meter surface swim- Any stroke but backstroke.Three-mile runPull-ups,max repsPush-ups, twominutesSit-ups, twominutes Marine studentencorps The United States Marine Corps is part of the Special Operations Command and have created the Marine CorpsForces (MarSOC) Raiders after seeing the need to create high-level special operators capable of todays sensitive special operations, counter-terrorism, and foreign internal defense missions. To enter into the MarSoc Raider training course, you have to ace the USMC PFT of the following Crunches, two minutesPull-ups, max repsThree-mile timed300-meterswim with utility uniform (cammies) top and bottom (no boots)15 minutes total of treading (11 min) and floating (4 min) test while wearing/using inflated cammies Making it to special operations training programs requires you to specifically train for a fitness test. In this case, it is the voreingestellt USMC PFT, including pull-ups, crunches and a three-mile run. It is important that your basic program addresses this basic physical fitness test. It is fine to lift, swim, ruck, shoot guns and pract ice land navigation, but if you cannot ace this fitness test, you will not be granted orders to any of the advanced training programs. Pre-Training Acing the fitness test/building a foundation of fitness so your body can handle the actual training (Boot camp, School of Infantry (SOI), Basic Recon Course (BRC), RECON, MarSOC Selection, etc) is the specific focus on training you must have during your pre-training/recruiting process. This process can take at least a year depending on your starting fitness level, or as little as half a year months depending on your athletic history. Regardless, you do not want to go to any training program without having reached near the maximum standards of the fitness requirements. Otherwise, the likelihood of injury, failure, and other delays are certain. You have to train for the training. Following this entrance exam, all ranks of 0-4 and below have to excel in a 3-week central assessment and screening that is overseen by Marine Special Operat ions School (MSOS). It is pretty standard physical and tactical testing for Special Operations Community under US-SOCOM operational control and heavily weighed in the students operational skills. Air Assets The Special Operations Aviation Units, such as the Army Special Operations Regiment (SOAR TF160) and the Air Force Special Operations Aviation, are a major part of SOCOM and are an invaluable asset to the above Special Operations ground units. 160th SOAR(A) Green Platoon is the assessment training program you must excel in for six weeks. It is an advanced physical training program that teaches the basics of being a soldier with advanced first-aid techniques, combatives, land navigation, and weapons training. You have to score well on the Army PFT to attend the course, as well as be prepared for the following other challenges of the six-week screening program Army PFT4-6 mile runs4-10 mile road marches with a45-pound rucksackRope climb/pull-ups

3 Questions You MUST ASK in a Job Interview

3 Questions You MUST ASK in a Job Interview3 Questions You MUST ASK in a Job InterviewThis article was updated from the original on July 26, 2017Lets face itif were being honest, no one actually enjoys the process of interviewing for a new job. The sweaty palms, nervous glances, awkward pauses and constant second guessing make the entire scenario seem like something more appropriate for an awkward first date rather than a potentially career-making opportunity. This doesnt need to be the case, however. Preparing for an interview can eliminate much of the nervousness that comes with veering out into the great unknown job market. Doing your research on the potential new employer, though, is just the tip of the planning iceberg. Critical interview points should be prepped and mildly rehearsed in buchen to make you an unflappable, ready for anything, type of candidate.One of the most important parts of the interview is the do you have any questions for me portion when the tables are turne d and interviewees are able to quiz their potential new employers on job, company and work-culture details. In addition to gathering information, these candidate driven questions are also excellent opportunities to show off your critical thinking and analysis skills in order to improve your chances at scoring the role.With that in mind, here are the top three questions you should be asking during your next job interview1. Could you describe your ideal candidate for this fleck?While this question may seem a bit open ended, asking your interviewer about their expectations and goals in the position is a great way to learn more about both the individual job and their potential management style. After all, if you win them over this person will potentially be your new supervisor and responsible for providing feedback and performance reviews.The question also demonstrates that youre interested in doing the best job possible in your role. More than a simple what does this job entail query, the active phrasing expresses your genuine interest in meeting and exceeding established ideals for the position.2. If I were offered the position, what would I need to accomplish in order to receive a five star review from you a year from now?This question again serves double duty for both illustrating your work ethic and commitment to excel while also flushing out your prospective employers expectations. Youll find out what is needed in order to move on up the corporate/job title ladder and your interviewer now knows that youre motivated to excellence rather than merely meeting expectations. The phrasing of this question is also important. By asking your interviewer to picture yourself in the position it sets you apart from the crowd and allows them to see that exact scenario. Consider this a bit of a twist on the old stand by visualization method of accomplishing your career and personal goals.3. Why is the position available?Perhaps the most important question in our list of the top three must asks, inquiring as to why the job opening is available will yield helpful information to both yourself and your potential new employer. Finding out whether an opening is a staff expansion could point to increased growth of your role within a given company. On the other hand, learning that someone else vacated may trigger the need for follow up research or questions as to dynamics amongst team members or co-workers.That brings up an important note that is often overlooked by interviewees asking about their new potential position. Whether this or any other question, remember to process the answer and use the responses to make thoughtful follow up questions. Inquiring about the reason for an expansion, for example, could yield useful information regarding company growth or new office openings. Likewise, news regarding someone leaving allows you to make inquiries regarding work-life balance, working environment and team interaction, without coming off as wahnhaft or over ly zealous.Regardless of whether you use our recommendations (we really think you should) remember that asking questions during the interview process is about more than just stretching out your interview or filling awkward pauses. Questions are valuable tools for gaining insightful knowledge into a job listing. In skilled and prepared hands, asking for additional info in an insightful way can also demonstrate in demand critical thinking skills and a sincere interest in landing the job. Give our questions a try, or modify them to fit your own strengths or personality, and watch as your confidence in interviews reaps real benefits in callbacks, job offers and more.

The Current Resume Trends Cover Up

The Current Resume Trends Cover Up If you look at the templates weve listed below, you will see that they all are similar in the manner your information is prioritized and structured. One of the very first sections people look at on your profile is going to be the headline. As previously mentioned, you need to decide on a resume format thats suited to your personal profile. When you format your resume you wish to make certain your leave enough margin space to permit for printing. Theres apparently an advance available for you. On the flip side, if youve got no resume written you have quite bad chances to acquire work. The very first thing you ought to do is make aya a possible employer knows whose resume theyre taking a look at Just utilize year to year when writing about how long you spent at work. Current Resume Trends - Dead or Alive? Therefore, if youre on the lookout for a new job, its much better to employ specialists who know all the inner workings of your precise field. You may read mora about the procedure for creating your value known inside my latest article. It is important to remain knowledgeable in regards to the current resume writing trends since the work market is getting more and more competitive. Just make sure tore updated based on your work field latest technology and learn to use them for more opportunities. If youre struggling to obtain an interview for all of the jobs you apply for, the very first thing that you ought to look at is your resume. Every individuals resume looks slightly different. The very last thing that you want to do is receive a job that you cant do. If you wish to receive a new job then youll need to ensure your resume does two things. The Secret to Current Resume Trends The truth is that its tough to place somebody into one definitive category. Individuals nowadays are aware that a good resume 2018 isnt so easy to construct. There are two primary trends in 2016. With the new resume 2018 trends, there are various different elements which are important to consider if you prefer a resume to be good enough. Employing unusual section headers as opposed to the common abilities, work history, and education headers may also confuse an ATS. So if youd like to keep up with the newest practices for an excellent application, find out more about the resume trends 2018 in the next section together with the significance of employing the correct resume format. You should make certain to select a format thats easiest for you. Knowing which to use keeps you updated with the hottest formats in writing your application. Whatever They Told You About Current Resume Trends Is Dead Wrong...And Heres Why Its possible to connect with a range of professionals. To begin with, perhaps its time to evaluate your current resume to make sure tore elend committing any cardinal sins. With the perfect one, you may also emphasize on what you desire the employer to concentrate on when reading your re sume. If you desire employers to resist over you in 2018, then read on. Employers want to seek out employees that are likely to stay with their company, not job-hop from 1 opportunity to another. Recruiters appreciate examples that show the affect your work has had in previous roles since it gives them a notion of what youd bring to the table should they hire you. Most jobs have a slew of activities that might not be related to your target position. Youre going to need unique versions of your resume for each and every position you apply even in the event the job which you apply for is the very same, but the employers are different. Too many job hunters will send the exact same tired resume to each job they are applying to. Just make sure, whichever format you select, which youre targeting it for the job which youre applying to. If it comes to discovering a new job, the exact same holds true. Even youre using non-traditional job searching approaches and dont use any on-line s ources. New Step by Step Roadmap for Current Resume Trends The majority of the applicants neglect to do so, but most of recruiters doing their search, searching for some skills, and just then contact you, clarifying some info. It is not valuable and its actually harmful to include things like a generic expert summary, she explained. Take a look at our article on the way to use your job references strategically in the event you need more info. Therefore, make certain that your resume is full of industry-specific key terms and terminology. Job Resume enables you to create your very own personal brand logo in only two or three minutes. Job search is still personal. Recruiters want to find out more about you than a boring collection of skills. The recruiter will know whether you have not properly formatted the document.

Volunteer Resume Sample: the Ultimate Convenience!

Volunteer Resume Sample the Ultimate Convenience Life, Death and Volunteer Resume Sample Nonetheless, your hobbies and travel will often dont have anything to do with the position that you would like. This is particularly true if you dont have lots of paid job experience. Possessing the perfect skills is good. Your career objective can earn a huge effect on the success of the resume in getting you the much sought after interview. The probability of obtaining a job for a volunteer is often significant. A lot of people, RPCVs included, make the error of thinking that the employer would like to know them as somebody. The Hidden Facts About Volunteer Resume Sample In some instances, you wont get paid in any respect. In such situations, its better to remain quiet. In spite of this simple fact, while taking a look at volunteer resume samples, you are going to notice there are some similarities. This is the capacity to interact and communicate with people irrespective of backgr ound. Its no problem about differing beliefs. For instance, if the organization is searching for someone whos adept at producing government reports, then that language should show up on your resume. Adhere to an easy and crystal clear email address which is based upon some variation of your name. But in order for this to happen, content isnt the only consideration. One needs to use a great format also. Volunteer Resume Sample - Dead or Alive? A volunteer is somebody who has made a decision they will get the job done for a business or an organization without expecting a payment. Hospital volunteers offer an essential service in hospitals. Aside from the skills needed for that specific job profile, volunteer experience brings highly desired qualities. If your volunteer experience beyond Peace Corps is related to the position to which youre applying, it must be listed as professional experience. Some individuals meet their community service requirements by spending a couple of hours or a couple of days volunteering with lots of distinct places. Ive been a volunteer worker for the last two decades and see the experience as life-changing for myself and others. There are a couple unique places where you could consist of volunteer experience on your resume the placement will truly depend on just what the remainder of your professional experience appears like and your present job objectives. Demonstrated capacity to supply excellent childcare experiences for kids, ensuring their security and wellbeing. A COVER LETTER is a distinctive letter to a certain person for a particular reason with a unique. Resume examples and templates are incredibly helpful, especially when youre writing one of your initial resumes. Many groups that need volunteer work are extremely specific about the sort of people they require. People do volunteer work for numerous explanations. Becoming a volunteer isnt always as simple as it seems. Volunteering for the society is fruc htwein likely the most satisfying job an individual might have. Charity work caters to an exceptional group of individuals. In case you havent been in a position to get out into the community lately, start looking for ways that you can help out to remain current. Communities want individuals who can put in long hours for little if any pay. Volunteer Resume Sample Ideas There is an assortment of possibilities concerning this section. Well answer that question within the next section. You might even have a hobby for example, writing a blog thats a review of every book you read or posting beautiful photographs on the internet that could be related to your job application. This might or might not be true but, whatever the case, your resume is not the place to get this done. However, there are times when you should place it in an Additional Activities section. Therefore, the document must be articulate and simple to read. Crafting your document will become easier when you group items into their various sections.